OZZIE: How To Open
INTRO:
Guys always ask me “how long you have been doing this” and i go “ for over 3 years” and they go “uhmmm”…in their heads they are doing the math of how long will it take them to get to from where they are where i am, where ever that is in their mind.
Funny thing is that they don’t know where they are in the game. So their calculation is always wrong. Most guys that I meet in bootcamps are way better than they think they are, but they just don’t know it
Thing is that except for a few exceptions, I was in the lowest place of the food chain than most guys mentally. I used to be a very negative person and it took me a while to learn how to think properly in the game.
It took me a while to get there mentally. It took me months to learn what our clients learn in one weekend of field work. Most guys have more tools and advance so much faster today than 2 years ago.
OPENING:
Most guys want the pickup line that will start the conversation 100 percent of the time. They want the magic line that will get them to being sweaty with a girl in the shortest amount of time.
While great conversation openers are very good and effective, the magic pill lies inside of you. Actually you can open by doing ape sounds if you want as long as you are coming from the right place mentally.
So how do you open?
I used to collect openers and field test them all the time. It felt that I was looking for “the one”. Not such a thing as the magic line that will open girls and give me sex all the time. Nice thought.
With time I discover that I had to take care of the person who was saying the opener, not the opener itself. That person being me, of course, my head, my thoughts, etc. that was more important.why? because while I was delivering those different openers, there was something that never change. The opener will change but there was always something that never change: good old me. I was the one making the opener work, I was the one who made it shiny. In other words in my search for the perfect opener I was forgetting “the one” the made it all work: me.
So what does this mean in terms of game?
It was more important “how” I delievered the opener than “what” I delivered. That figures, in communication a good 90 percent is nonverbal and only a fraction is actually “the content”.
So I started to work on “me”. Rather than on the content.
I started asking myself “weird” and empowering questions like. “why am I in the game?” “why am I doing this?” “what do I want from this game?”. The answers were astonishing and transformed my life and my game. They gave me a sense of purpose. All of a sudden I realized that I wanted to have fun, to have a good time, to have cool girls around me, cool people to hang. Then, my opening game started to change. I was more fun, more warm, more in the moment. All my sets would open.
BEING WARM:
Some guys look at girls like the “enemy” to be conquered and destroyed. They devise all kinds of sophisticated stories, backhanded compliments, canned comebacks. They play “the jerk” persona and try to manipulate the girl into thinking they are the tribe leaders without actually having any personality at all to back it up. They are just faking it. They think this is a game where they “must” win and as a consequence somebody(girl) “must” lose. So if they win they are on top of the wave, if they lose they feel miserable.
Well, that´s one way to look at it. i was there for a long time. But I realized that it was not helping me at all. So I changed. I realized that women were incredible and they made my life better. I started thinking more about the girl and less about the vagina. I started going for the girl and not for what was between her legs. So I started opening with a warm smile and great energy. Like I had something to offer to them. Something unique.
All of a sudden I was opening without opening. No more magic lines. Sometimes a simple “hi” with a warm smile, other times “I am having so much fun, I love it here” with a warm smile, “hey guys, i love being in London/New York/Vegas/Sydney etc..everybody is being so friendly”…I started to open with my new found confidence that I had something to share to people, something to give and who wouldn’t want to be around me with that kind of attitude…
I started getting responses along the lines of “we want to hang with you”, “take us somewhere”, “we will show you the town”, “I love your energy, it is so good to be around you”, “where can we go together”…isn’t that a shortcut to any woman´s bed? You bet.
So to wrap up this concept I would say that if you want to really excel at opening start thinking along the lines of giving rather than taking. Why are you opening in the first place? Are you opening to get the sex or the girl? Are you opening to take value from them or to offer them value? What is it that you have that would make people be around you and attracted to you?
I just answer those empowering questions and started thinking in terms of giving rather than taking. That´s how my opening game was transformed into a real, powerful fun endeavour that I love to do.
cheers,
Ozzie
Guys always ask me “how long you have been doing this” and i go “ for over 3 years” and they go “uhmmm”…in their heads they are doing the math of how long will it take them to get to from where they are where i am, where ever that is in their mind.
Funny thing is that they don’t know where they are in the game. So their calculation is always wrong. Most guys that I meet in bootcamps are way better than they think they are, but they just don’t know it
Thing is that except for a few exceptions, I was in the lowest place of the food chain than most guys mentally. I used to be a very negative person and it took me a while to learn how to think properly in the game.
It took me a while to get there mentally. It took me months to learn what our clients learn in one weekend of field work. Most guys have more tools and advance so much faster today than 2 years ago.
OPENING:
Most guys want the pickup line that will start the conversation 100 percent of the time. They want the magic line that will get them to being sweaty with a girl in the shortest amount of time.
While great conversation openers are very good and effective, the magic pill lies inside of you. Actually you can open by doing ape sounds if you want as long as you are coming from the right place mentally.
So how do you open?
I used to collect openers and field test them all the time. It felt that I was looking for “the one”. Not such a thing as the magic line that will open girls and give me sex all the time. Nice thought.
With time I discover that I had to take care of the person who was saying the opener, not the opener itself. That person being me, of course, my head, my thoughts, etc. that was more important.why? because while I was delivering those different openers, there was something that never change. The opener will change but there was always something that never change: good old me. I was the one making the opener work, I was the one who made it shiny. In other words in my search for the perfect opener I was forgetting “the one” the made it all work: me.
So what does this mean in terms of game?
It was more important “how” I delievered the opener than “what” I delivered. That figures, in communication a good 90 percent is nonverbal and only a fraction is actually “the content”.
So I started to work on “me”. Rather than on the content.
I started asking myself “weird” and empowering questions like. “why am I in the game?” “why am I doing this?” “what do I want from this game?”. The answers were astonishing and transformed my life and my game. They gave me a sense of purpose. All of a sudden I realized that I wanted to have fun, to have a good time, to have cool girls around me, cool people to hang. Then, my opening game started to change. I was more fun, more warm, more in the moment. All my sets would open.
BEING WARM:
Some guys look at girls like the “enemy” to be conquered and destroyed. They devise all kinds of sophisticated stories, backhanded compliments, canned comebacks. They play “the jerk” persona and try to manipulate the girl into thinking they are the tribe leaders without actually having any personality at all to back it up. They are just faking it. They think this is a game where they “must” win and as a consequence somebody(girl) “must” lose. So if they win they are on top of the wave, if they lose they feel miserable.
Well, that´s one way to look at it. i was there for a long time. But I realized that it was not helping me at all. So I changed. I realized that women were incredible and they made my life better. I started thinking more about the girl and less about the vagina. I started going for the girl and not for what was between her legs. So I started opening with a warm smile and great energy. Like I had something to offer to them. Something unique.
All of a sudden I was opening without opening. No more magic lines. Sometimes a simple “hi” with a warm smile, other times “I am having so much fun, I love it here” with a warm smile, “hey guys, i love being in London/New York/Vegas/Sydney etc..everybody is being so friendly”…I started to open with my new found confidence that I had something to share to people, something to give and who wouldn’t want to be around me with that kind of attitude…
I started getting responses along the lines of “we want to hang with you”, “take us somewhere”, “we will show you the town”, “I love your energy, it is so good to be around you”, “where can we go together”…isn’t that a shortcut to any woman´s bed? You bet.
So to wrap up this concept I would say that if you want to really excel at opening start thinking along the lines of giving rather than taking. Why are you opening in the first place? Are you opening to get the sex or the girl? Are you opening to take value from them or to offer them value? What is it that you have that would make people be around you and attracted to you?
I just answer those empowering questions and started thinking in terms of giving rather than taking. That´s how my opening game was transformed into a real, powerful fun endeavour that I love to do.
cheers,
Ozzie
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