TODD: Sexual Tension
SEXUAL TENSION = INTEREST + BARRIERS
Very simple. Show your intent, let her know you like her... but be a "hesitant buyer." Never let her have you completely. Always be completely willing to walk away.
Barriers are SO IMPORTANT because they allow a girl to act on her desires without feeling slutty. If she doesn't think she can have you (for whatever reason) it's okay for her to get turned on.
Physical escalation is ONE way to show intent. As is cutting space, eye contact, flirting (push pull) etc.
THE KEY:
She should NOT be SURE she has you... but she should have a vague feeling that she is in "imminent danger of being fucked."
THE CHALLENGE:
How do you convey intent without letting her know she has you?
The key is to be totally non-reactive... that is to show your intent while at the same time NOT CARING how she responds to it. You show intent because it's the "right" thing to do (because it's alpha and authoratative and proactive). NOT because you want to get her attracted to you... very Zen. No manipulative or creepy vibe.
Consider how different techniques achieve this end of interest + barrier.
PHYSICAL ESCALATION (if done properly):
Shows you're sexual but is not needy and does not carry with it an agenda. You're acting in a sexual way, but you are not necessarily committing to her... You may leave at any time, but for right now you're here and you make her feel sexual and good. You're also not asking for anything FROM her... just giving value.
Her rationalization: "I could stop at any time, I'll stop later for sure, but I won't stop yet because it feels really good."
PUSH/PULL:
Obviously... shows interest then takes it away. Push pull can be emotional, verbal, physical or contextual.
Her rationalization: "It's ok for me to act sexual because he's not TRYING to sleep with me... I'm not even 100% sure he likes me... I bet I can make him like me though"
Slowing down/going sexual:
Similar to going physical. Shows your sexuality, triggers emotions, shouldn't be needy or have an overt agenda. Still willing to walk away.
Her rationalization: See physical escalation.
So in one sentence: ESCALATE, BUT DO IT IN A WAY THAT LET'S HER PARTICIPATE WITHOUT FEELING SLUTTY; HENCE BARRIERS.
Very simple. Show your intent, let her know you like her... but be a "hesitant buyer." Never let her have you completely. Always be completely willing to walk away.
Barriers are SO IMPORTANT because they allow a girl to act on her desires without feeling slutty. If she doesn't think she can have you (for whatever reason) it's okay for her to get turned on.
Physical escalation is ONE way to show intent. As is cutting space, eye contact, flirting (push pull) etc.
THE KEY:
She should NOT be SURE she has you... but she should have a vague feeling that she is in "imminent danger of being fucked."
THE CHALLENGE:
How do you convey intent without letting her know she has you?
The key is to be totally non-reactive... that is to show your intent while at the same time NOT CARING how she responds to it. You show intent because it's the "right" thing to do (because it's alpha and authoratative and proactive). NOT because you want to get her attracted to you... very Zen. No manipulative or creepy vibe.
Consider how different techniques achieve this end of interest + barrier.
PHYSICAL ESCALATION (if done properly):
Shows you're sexual but is not needy and does not carry with it an agenda. You're acting in a sexual way, but you are not necessarily committing to her... You may leave at any time, but for right now you're here and you make her feel sexual and good. You're also not asking for anything FROM her... just giving value.
Her rationalization: "I could stop at any time, I'll stop later for sure, but I won't stop yet because it feels really good."
PUSH/PULL:
Obviously... shows interest then takes it away. Push pull can be emotional, verbal, physical or contextual.
Her rationalization: "It's ok for me to act sexual because he's not TRYING to sleep with me... I'm not even 100% sure he likes me... I bet I can make him like me though"
Slowing down/going sexual:
Similar to going physical. Shows your sexuality, triggers emotions, shouldn't be needy or have an overt agenda. Still willing to walk away.
Her rationalization: See physical escalation.
So in one sentence: ESCALATE, BUT DO IT IN A WAY THAT LET'S HER PARTICIPATE WITHOUT FEELING SLUTTY; HENCE BARRIERS.
1 Comments:
Thanks dude (: mindset wise you just helped me recognise some personal barriers I've been having.
TYLORDZ, MELBZZ
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