TYLER: You Will Not Get Every Girl
Some thoughts here on the idea of "perfect" game messes with your head...
1-Nothing stops you from getting a connection or even making the girl very interested in you.
However, the simple fact is that NOT every girl is going to spread her legs for you and let you pump her brains out.
Some have very cool boyfriends that they simply won't cheat on. Some have more average boyfriends but are just super-loyal type girls. Some simply won't sleep with a guy unless he meets very specific criteria, because they have some kind of mental issues about it. Some have confidence issues and won't return your phonecalls because they're too nervous. Some are so utterly disorganized and flakey that they can't do simple things like return messages. Some give their numbers out to so many guys that they can't remember who is who, even if you stood out more than any guy she's ever met.
That's not to say I haven't gotten girls with boyfriends. MOST girls I've dated probably had boyfriends I didn't know existed, just for the fact that most attractive girls have a man.
I've also blown through many of the objections that I mentioned, including flakiness, lack of confidence, mental issues and everything else. I don't acknowledge this stuff in my mind. I play the game as if these things didn't exist, and you should do the same.
All that said though -- it doesn't matter if you're the most famous movie star in the world, the richest guy, or the guy with the best social skills. You're NOT going to get *every* single girl. Period.
2- I'm not saying that this is you, but in most cases when guys ask "what kind of success do the best guys get?" the frame it's coming from is:
-they never want to get rejected
-they want validation from every woman they talk to
-they want to become a dungeons & dragons style wizard-mage of pickup
-they have no standards for the type of woman they'd like to sleep with other than looks.
Once you've been with a number of hot girls you realize something: many hot girls are VERY unattractive. So unattractive that you have NO INTEREST. It's at this point that you develop STANDARDS and you become a 10X better pickup artist. It's at this point that the girls can feel you are NATURALLY SCREENING and will jump through your hoops to be with you more than you'd ever thought possible.
That said, what do most of the best pickup artists I know get in terms of results?
Most would go out, have an amazing night where pretty much everyone in the place thought they were awesome, have makeouts and get phone numbers, and usually extract.
Of the girls they extracted, some they slept with and some they didn't. Of the girls they called on the phone, some came out and some didn't. I am speaking for myself here? I guess I am. But I'm speaking for all the best guys I've gone out with, lived with, and winged with as well.
Overall it's KICK ASS. You have an abundance of women and friends in your life (which is cool when you're coming from a poverty/scarcity situation). Your life is just a hell of a lot of fun. Having these skills is awesome. Read the reviews that 90% of guys give when first seeing a real PUA in action, and you'll see that it's an eye-opening thing that most guys didn't realize could exist.
But are there guys having sex with *every* girl they approach? Definitely not.
3- As for the 545 challenge -- the idea that you approach 5 women and have sex with all 5 -- that goes under the category of what we call "Delusional confidence."
Guys who have delusional confidence are great to learn from because their psychology is PRIMED for picking up girls.
Their beliefs keep their state pumped up high. Their beliefs give them the confidence to approach anybody and everybody. Their beliefs allow them to act on IOIs and close the deal. So learn and respect guys who have delusional confidence -- at least the ones who are getting good results.
At the same time, when the idea of 100% perfect game is messing up your self-esteem because you feel like you're not getting the results you should be (which I've seen more and more of in my students this year) -- that's when it's time to wake up and be more realistic.
Use your own critical thinking and look past the marketing. This stuff is more than obvious.
Tyler
1-Nothing stops you from getting a connection or even making the girl very interested in you.
However, the simple fact is that NOT every girl is going to spread her legs for you and let you pump her brains out.
Some have very cool boyfriends that they simply won't cheat on. Some have more average boyfriends but are just super-loyal type girls. Some simply won't sleep with a guy unless he meets very specific criteria, because they have some kind of mental issues about it. Some have confidence issues and won't return your phonecalls because they're too nervous. Some are so utterly disorganized and flakey that they can't do simple things like return messages. Some give their numbers out to so many guys that they can't remember who is who, even if you stood out more than any guy she's ever met.
That's not to say I haven't gotten girls with boyfriends. MOST girls I've dated probably had boyfriends I didn't know existed, just for the fact that most attractive girls have a man.
I've also blown through many of the objections that I mentioned, including flakiness, lack of confidence, mental issues and everything else. I don't acknowledge this stuff in my mind. I play the game as if these things didn't exist, and you should do the same.
All that said though -- it doesn't matter if you're the most famous movie star in the world, the richest guy, or the guy with the best social skills. You're NOT going to get *every* single girl. Period.
2- I'm not saying that this is you, but in most cases when guys ask "what kind of success do the best guys get?" the frame it's coming from is:
-they never want to get rejected
-they want validation from every woman they talk to
-they want to become a dungeons & dragons style wizard-mage of pickup
-they have no standards for the type of woman they'd like to sleep with other than looks.
Once you've been with a number of hot girls you realize something: many hot girls are VERY unattractive. So unattractive that you have NO INTEREST. It's at this point that you develop STANDARDS and you become a 10X better pickup artist. It's at this point that the girls can feel you are NATURALLY SCREENING and will jump through your hoops to be with you more than you'd ever thought possible.
That said, what do most of the best pickup artists I know get in terms of results?
Most would go out, have an amazing night where pretty much everyone in the place thought they were awesome, have makeouts and get phone numbers, and usually extract.
Of the girls they extracted, some they slept with and some they didn't. Of the girls they called on the phone, some came out and some didn't. I am speaking for myself here? I guess I am. But I'm speaking for all the best guys I've gone out with, lived with, and winged with as well.
Overall it's KICK ASS. You have an abundance of women and friends in your life (which is cool when you're coming from a poverty/scarcity situation). Your life is just a hell of a lot of fun. Having these skills is awesome. Read the reviews that 90% of guys give when first seeing a real PUA in action, and you'll see that it's an eye-opening thing that most guys didn't realize could exist.
But are there guys having sex with *every* girl they approach? Definitely not.
3- As for the 545 challenge -- the idea that you approach 5 women and have sex with all 5 -- that goes under the category of what we call "Delusional confidence."
Guys who have delusional confidence are great to learn from because their psychology is PRIMED for picking up girls.
Their beliefs keep their state pumped up high. Their beliefs give them the confidence to approach anybody and everybody. Their beliefs allow them to act on IOIs and close the deal. So learn and respect guys who have delusional confidence -- at least the ones who are getting good results.
At the same time, when the idea of 100% perfect game is messing up your self-esteem because you feel like you're not getting the results you should be (which I've seen more and more of in my students this year) -- that's when it's time to wake up and be more realistic.
Use your own critical thinking and look past the marketing. This stuff is more than obvious.
Tyler
1 Comments:
ok - devil's advocate again
- so seduction is not a choice, huh?
- hmmm
- I know if adriana lima approached 5 straight guys, she would go 5 for 5 - she could probably go 100 for 100 - they could be old, young, fat, whatver
now, can I guy build ten level game like that? I think 545 theory thinks he could - that he could be an a. lima and build universal attraction so strong that he could get the same result -
but like you, I disagree - there are more social dynamics that come into play with male attraction - but I just think that's where 545 is grounded.
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